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The Mental Blessing: How To Get Anything You Want in 21 days

 

          Some years ago a client of mine gave me a little book entitled, Alpha Awareness  Results Book: How To Get Results In Life, How To Flow With The Universe, written by Wally Minto.1  This was a life changing book for me because what it offered was a series of mental exercises for changing the direction of one’s life. One exercise was what Wally referred to as “The Mental Blessing.” The assignment that went along with the exercise was to pick something you want such as a physical possession, a personality characteristic, or a state of mind. He promise that by blessing seven people per day with this “whatever you want” within 21 days this “whatever you want” will show up in your life or the avenue or channel to achieve it will present itself.

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The Golden Rule and Gay Marriage – 7 Observations


First Observation – all of my gay friends are dead.  Well, not all of my gay friends, I have some younger gay friends that are not dead.  All of my gay friends that would be my age if they were alive, are dead.  A talented photographer and a wonderful father to four gorgeous sons – dead.  An award wining florist and a beautiful person inside and out – dead.  My husband’s first cousin – dead.  My sister’s nephew’s father – dead.

 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.  Romans 6:23

Second Observation – Our President cannot personally decide anything about marriage.  Marriage does not originate from our President, marriage does not originate from our government, marriage does not originate from man.  Marriage is a God institution  and as marriage originates from God, he has set out the parameters.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man  called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh; 
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man. ”  

 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.  Genesis 2:18-24

Observation Three – Our President said that he was using his faith as a Christian and applying the “golden rule” that Jesus commanded  us to do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  This statement is an oxymoron, as Christians we are to seek correction for disobedience to God’s laws.  As a Christian my desire is to have other Christians offer correction, not condone or coddle me in my sin.

Let a righteous man strike me—that is a kindness;
    let him rebuke me —that is oil on my head. 
My head will not refuse it,
    for my prayer will still be against the deeds of evildoers. Psalms 141:5

Observation Four – The actual physical union of a married man and woman is a sacrament.  It is a sacrament in the same sense that taking communion, the wine and the bread is a sacrament.  If you want to research this in more depth, I recommend “Theology of The Body” by Pope John Paul.

 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:32

Observation Five – In every instance in the Bible when the disobedience is brought into a sacrament, the participants died.  Read the stories in Leviticus 9:23 and Acts 5:1-11.

Observation Six – God does not love someone less for being gay.  God sent his son to die for ALL MANKIND,  His desire is that none should perish.  I cannot love someone less for being gay.  The church cannot love someone less for being gay. God does not love me less for my sin.  The church cannot love me less for my sin.  I cannot defend my sin and expect others to condone and coddle my sin.

Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.  Galatians 6:1

Observation Seven – If our government decides to offer civil unions for consenting adults, it may structure these civil unions in any way it chooses to structure them, as these unions will be a product of the government.  Our government, our President, any man cannot create a sacrament, a spiritual union, as it does not have the power or authority to produce such a union.

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In Search of Symmetry – Day 179 Breast Reconstruction & A Purple Nipple Tattoo


Two weeks ago I went to see Dr. Saint-Cyr, who is still my hero!  He marked me up with his famous colored markers in preparation for the third stage of my breast reconstruction.  The next morning my daughter and I went to the gym.  As we were getting dressed, a woman looked over and said, “That is an interesting tattoo!”  I looked down and saw all the pink, green and black squiggles and arrows and a purple nipple, drawn right in the middle.  That is what I have always wanted, a PURPLE NIPPLE TATTOO!  

The surgery was Tuesday, and I have a nipple.  It is covered in bandages, so I do not know yet what color it is.  I am told it will be flesh colored, and after it is completely healed up, Dr. Saint-Cyr will tattoo it.  Not PURPLE!  I do have a lot of purple bruises around the sites where my fat was extracted and then more bruises where the fat was placed in and around the new breast.  I am going to be symmetrical.

This symmetry business has been more work than I bargained for.  I am happy that I choose symmetry and I am very happy it is almost over.  My plan was to post every day of the breast reconstruction process, for a complete picture of the process from one person’s point of view.  The best laid plans go awry. 

My first interruption was the flood in my bedroom and master bathroom.  In order to repair the wet hardwood floors in the master bedroom, we had to move out of the house for 10 days.  While staying in the hotel, I developed a hematoma in the radiated skin above the breast reconstruction and had to be hospitalized for a week.  The day after I came home from the hospital, we moved back into our house.  The hardwood floor was great, but our master bath had concrete floors and water damage to walls, wallpaper and the bathroom vanity. 

I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me ,I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency.   Phillippians 4:13 Amplified

As soon as I could stand up, a friend came to help me put the bathroom back together, again.  When he pulled the bathroom vanity out, the shower caved in.  It seemed to get much, much worse, before it got better!  All’s well that ends well – we finished up the bathroom, just in time for my second surgery.  This is the clean up phase, where Dr. Saint-Cyr reshaped the lump of flesh into a breast shape and eliminated some of the large scar tissue from the first surgery.  It was an out-patient surgery and my recovery time was 3 weeks, instead of 6 weeks.

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Between the flood, the master bathroom remodel, and two surgeries, this has been a very busy summer.  Gary is also working in San Antonio now, and living with my sister!  In a very brotherly sort of way.  He and she are so busy, she says she has seen him 15 minutes in the 3 weeks they have been “living together.”  This week Gary was here, he worked out of Dallas and from home.  He is leaving this afternoon and I will miss him very much.

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Stick Out Your Tongue


Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me, may be true as long as the words are not your words. Your words , the words you speak every day, every word you speak every day, every single word you speak every day is important. Jesus says in Matthew 12:36 that every idle word will be judged. Every word!

Words create. Genesis 1:3 says light was created by God speaking. Proverbs 18:21, The Message says that our “ Words kill, words give life;  they’re either poison or fruit—you choose. ”  You have the power to create life or death with your words. This is your choice. Every word that you speak is either poison, creating destruction and death in large and small ways in your life – or – fruit, creating joy and life. In “The Message” Mathew 12:36 is paraphrased this way, A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.”

It is easy to identify reckless, harmful words, It is the careless words, that we feel are harmless and insignificant that trip us up. These idle, negative words poison our environment, creating seeds of destruction and death. When we say to someone we love, “You ALWAYS forget” or “I love you, BUT.” The “always”, the “but” are careless words that will eventually compromise our relationship with our loved one. In James 3:5 he says, “A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it! “ The Message.

In the same passage James says it is easier to tame a horse to the bridle, than to tame our tongue, That does not mean it cannot be done. We all have seen many bridled horses. It just means that it requires intense and consistent effort on our part.

Peter says in 1 Peter 3:10 that for us to enjoy life all of our words should bless! What a thought, if every word we spoke was intentional and intended to bless the person we spoke it to. We began to consistently monitor our words with intense effort. We eliminated idle, careless words.

To recap

  • Proverbs says life and death are in the tongue.
  • Jesus says every idle word will be judged.
  • James says our words can accomplish or destroy anything.
  • Peter says to enjoy life all of our words should bless.

Summing up: Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless—that’s your job, to bless. You’ll be a blessing and also get a blessing.

   Whoever wants to embrace life
      and see the day fill up with good,
   Here’s what you do:
      Say nothing evil or hurtful;
   Snub evil and cultivate good;
      run after peace for all you’re worth.
   God looks on all this with approval,
      listening and responding well to what he’s asked; “

1 Peter 3:18-21” The Message

Today I would ask you to begin a 7 day experiment. For the next 7 days say nothing unless it will bless the person you are speaking to and the person you are speaking about. Eliminate all reckless and harmful speech. Eliminate all careless and idle speech. Pray over your words every morning, asking God to help you have productive speech that blesses. Pray over your words every night, ask God to forgive you for any idle, careless words and direct you to ask forgiveness from others, if necessary. See if the atmosphere every where you go does not change. At the end of 7 days, see if you do not want to continue to consistently and intensely train your speech to bless.

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In Search of Symmetry – Day 8 Breast Reconstruction


The new breast does not have a nipple!Kabbalah is a centuries old philosophy used in conjunction with Scripture to explore the relationship between God and man.  In Kabbalah each number is given significance.  In kabbalistic teachings, the number seven symbolizes perfection – the number 7 is human perfection, and the number 8 is perfection achieved when God and man work together, and the product would be beyond man’s ability alone. 

I am on day 8 in my search for symmetry.  I am still very sore, still draining JP drains and still stitched up like Raggady Ann.  I am at peace with my Lord and His healing power flows through me to complete the good work that Dr.Saint Cyr began.  As man and God work together, I am receiving, today, day 8 that perfect healing beyond man’s ability.  I receive this healing power,in the Name of my Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.

That prayer is for you also, dear reader.  You, too, can receive the perfect, powerful healing power in your body.  Pray the prayer over yourself and receive.

Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.

 But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.    Isaiah 53:4-5 KJV

As promised, here are some pictures of my Monster High/ Raggady Ann self.  I do not see myself as you see me, but as God sees me – complete and whole.

Your two breasts are like two fawns, like twins of a gazelle that feed among the lilies.

    6Until the day breaks and the shadows flee away, in my thoughts, I will get to the mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense, to him whom my soul adores.

    7He exclaimed, O my love, how beautiful you are! There is no flaw in you! Song of Solomon 4:5-7  Amplified

I am praying for everyone that has prayed for me, that each one of you will receive supernatural power, healing and finances and that each one of you will give the glory to Jesus. 

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In Search of Symmetry – Day 7 Breast Reconstruction


The entire cancer experience seems to have been distilled into the last few days.  A dear friend of mine called, diagnosed with throat cancer after I was diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer.  He has completed chemo and radiation. He did not have to have surgery;  just had his second PET scan and is now in remission.  He spoke with me during my 6 days in the hospital and he said,” I do not dwell on the past, the pain, the treatment, the fear;  I  now feel empowered to go forward and do anything.”  We, who have had the diagnosis of cancer, have truly been in the belly of the furnace,and if we are in remission, we know we have walked with God. 

Last Monday, I was lopsided.  In remission, but lopsided.  I had a constant and inconvenient reminder of  the fight I had been through.  I knew I had to embrace this as I embraced my new sparse and sticky hair or go for surgery. More surgery, more doctors, more pain.  Maybe, if I were single, I might have chosen to embrace this asymmetry.  I am not single.  

        Let your fountain be blessed,
         And rejoice in the wife of your youth. 
         As a loving hind and a graceful doe,
         Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
         Be exhilarated always with her love.    Proverbs 5:18-19 New American Standard

I am the wife of my husband’s youth.  We have been married 36 years. The asymmetry, along with the radiation scarring was difficult and painful for him.  We could not go to our future with this between us.

My husband has been faithful, prayerful, believing for my healing.  He has taken off from work; then worked, cooked, cleaned and nursed me, all at the same time.  My husband has never complained about me being bald, gaining weight or being lopsided.  He has only said that to look at the radiation scarring caused him pain.

One doctor said that he should be grateful that I was alive.  And he was. That doctor was a woman, and she forgot that the first thing out of my husbands mouth, when she said they were going to take my breast was and ” You ARE going to put it back?”

So, Dr. Saint Cyr did the miracle that the woman surgeon could not do, and took all the fat and skin off my belly and made me a new breast.  I look like a badly sewed rag doll at present.  Something you might find on the Wal-Mart toy isle under “Monster High”, except for the senior hair, wrinkles and age spots!

In the last 7 days I have experienced the nausea of chemo, the unreal feel of waking from surgery, the burning and itching of radiation.  Of course the nausea was not from chemo, but the pain medicine, I did have a 6 hour surgery, and the burning and itching was the skin waking up from being stitched together.  But all of this is for the future, the future of symmetry.

My niece asked a question on Facebook, the question was, “Which is better?… For you to love a woman because she is beautiful, or for her to become beautiful because you love her?”

I want to thank every single person who prayed for me.  I know it is and will make a difference in the outcome.

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Miracle Remix – Cerise Is A Color I Love


Here is an old fashioned clothes wringer.Today’s teenagers love a remix. A remix, as I understand it, is a favorite song, put through an electronic wringer. On the other side of the electronic wringer, the artist, or another artist adds another twist. Most teenagers would not know what a “wringer” is, but I do not know what the proper name for the electronic equipment they use to cause distortion in the original song.

Last week I wrote a post about the miracle of my daughter, and this Thursday my daughter and I experienced a small miracle. I just want to extol the faithfulness of our Father in the smallest things. He is always faithful and always interested in us. This is an amazing thought.

“ Can a mother forget her nursing child?
Can she feel no love for the child she has borne?
But even if that were possible,
I would not forget you!
See, I have written your name on the palms of my hands.” Isaiah 49:15,16 NIV

I am a last minute person. I have been told time and time again, that I time it too close. This is something I need to work on. Although, I have flown many, many times, until Thursday, I had never missed a flight. I have been close, but I have never missed a flight.

My sister had purchased tickets for my 2 daughters, (Cerise and Haruka, who is our Japanese exchange student daughter for this year), to go with her to her son’s graduation from boot camp in San Diego, CA. My sister was flying in from San Antonio, TX to Dallas – Fort Worth International Airport, and the girls were going to fly with her to San Diego. We left the house 2 and one-half hours before the flight and DFW Airport is about 45 minutes from our house. I was very happy to have all this EXTRA TIME.

We made a stop, to pick up my daughter’s phone and there was a long line.   There was all kinds of construction I was unaware of,  on the North entrance to the airport. With the construction, I missed the turn and we had to backtrack. We were misinformed about the gate, so I dropped the girls off 50 minutes before their flight, but about a half mile from their gate. The girls missed their flight and we were told that they could fly stand by, but all flights to San Diego were oversold, and they most likely would not be able to fly out until the next day. My nephew’s graduation began at 8:00 am the following morning.

The next flight out had only one standby ticket available. My daughters gave it up to a young lady who was going home to be with her mother in the hospital. My daughter and I began to pray. Remembering what I had just written, about a miracle. I began to ask, “Lord Jesus, we need a miracle to get these girls on a flight, before tomorrow. What is my $300.00 part in this? How can I step out in faith?”

I went to the ticket counter and asked for the supervisor. I waited 2 hours to speak with him. I was not impatient, I was in prayer the entire time. The next flight out was not until 6:30 p.m., so I had the time. I was not going anywhere.

When the supervisor came out, he told me that he had looked everywhere and there was no way the girls would get to San Diego, CA until the next day, after the graduation ceremony had taken place. I explained that it would be too late, could he possibly refund my sister’s money. I waited peacefully, in prayer, while he keyed and keyed on the computer. After about 15 minutes, he said, “I have both girls on a guaranteed flight at 7:30 p.m. tonight!” A small miracle, but very important to my sister, my daughters and my nephew.

So You Want A Miracle

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Cerise is a Color, that I Love, Love, Love


It has been said that things good and bad come in threes, but my most favorite things have come one at a time.  My mom once asked me why I had my children 19 years apart.  I told her that I had them so far apart so I could enjoy each one.  And that is partly true.  We would have had Cerise 6 years sooner, but it took 6 years for the Lord to prepare us for her.

In 1988 my husband decided that he would really love to have a little girl.  We began to pray for a little girl.  I thought we would adopt a little girl, as I had had my tubes tied in 1979.  I was not really thinking about having a baby.  I had had my tubes tied as my kidneys almost failed when I was carrying my son and the doctor did not think it would be wise for me to have any more children.

Cerise is now 16, tall and blond and beautiful.  She tops me by 5 inches.  She pirouettes from room to room in our house, filling the air with teenage chatter of music, fashion, boys, school and swimming, not necessarily in that order.  Her energy is contagious.  She is tentatively reaching out for her own relationship with our Lord.  She is by turns shy and bold.  Watching her causes laughter and joy to bubble out of me, which she sometimes misconstrues as making fun of her dramatic statements and positions, each all or nothing,  for the moment.    She has a heart for the African children and really wants to do something to make a difference for them.

In 1982 the Lord miraculously healed my kidneys.  I was at a church service and the pastor said, “There is someone here who has had kidney problems since they were a child, and the Lord would like to heal them.”  I ran to the front of the building and as the pastor prayed, I felt warm and tingle all over.  I have had one bladder infection since that time.  I could bore you with details, but from the time I was 6 weeks old, until that day in 1982 I had had numerous kidney infections and was told that I had extensive scarring in my kidneys from the repeated infections.

A baby, a baby girl.  If you adopt, you can sometimes pick the sex.  We were praying for a baby girl.  In 1993, my sister went in for infertility counseling and in vitro fertilization was suggested to her.  It is a very expensive procedure.  I went to lunch with her and she explained the procedure and costs.  I went home, and repeated the information to my husband.  My husband said, “Let’s do that.”  I said, “Do what?” 

In vitro Fertilization is very expensive, and in it is not a sure thing.  Even today, there are 31 live births for every 100 procedures in women 35 to 37,  according to this article. ( http://www.advancedfertility.com/ivf-age.htm)  In 1994 I know it was less.  And as I told my husband, it is not like going to McDonald’s, and saying I will have the Big Mac.  You get what you get, girl or boy.  My husband kept praying.

We had our primary care doctor refer us to a infertility doctor.  He went over the entire procedure and the cost.  We prayed over this decision for a year.  The exact amount we needed for the in vitro procedure, became available, 1 year later.  We felt this was the Lord, saying YES!

We began the process, I only produced 2 eggs, the doctor wanted me to have 4 to 12 eggs.  The doctor wanted to start the whole procedure over again.  We would have to come up with an additional $5,000.00.  My husband and I asked the doctor if we could just continue on with the process.  The doctor said, statistically, I could not get pregnant with just 2 eggs, but practically, it only takes one egg for a pregnancy.  It was our money and if we wished to spend it by continuing the procedure, knowing this, he would be willing to continue.  We prayed about it with a prayer group and felt that if we had heard from the Lord, I would get pregnant with just 2 eggs and if we had missed God, I would not get pregnant and we would have learned a VERY EXPENSIVE LESSON.

She is beautiful and she was a beautiful baby.  I am so privileged to be her mother.  I would not change anything.  I would not change the 6 years the Lord spent preparing my husband and I for His miracle.  And she is His miracle.  I took her into the in vitro clinic when she was 6 weeks old.  The doctor said, “She is beautiful, but I had very little to do with the birth of this young lady.”

I leave you with the scripture from the sermon this morning. 

Don’t you know anything? Haven’t you been listening?
God doesn’t come and go. God lasts.
   He’s Creator of all you can see or imagine.
He doesn’t get tired out, doesn’t pause to catch his breath.
   And he knows everything, inside and out.
He energizes those who get tired,  
   gives fresh strength to dropouts.
For even young people tire and drop out,
   young folk in their prime stumble and fall.
But those who wait upon God get fresh strength.
   They spread their wings and soar like eagles,
They run and don’t get tired,
   they walk and don’t lag behind.   Isaiah 40:27-31  The Message

So you want a miracle? 

 My husband and I found that there are 7 steps to a miracle.

The willing to be wrong may be the most important.  It is that place of humility, if at the end of all the prayer, all the waiting, all the stepping out, all the cost, if His answer is no, you will be at peace, content to say with Paul;

there was given me a thorn, a splinter, in the flesh, a messenger of Satan, to rack and buffet and harass me, to  keep me from being excessively exalted.  Three times I called upon the Lord and besought Him about this and begged that it might depart from me;

 But He said to me, My grace ,My favor and loving-kindness and mercy is enough for you sufficient against any danger and enables you to bear the trouble manfully; for My strength and power are made perfect fulfilled and completed and show themselves most effective in your weakness. Therefore, I will all the more gladly glory in my weaknesses and infirmities, that the strength and power of Christ ,the Messiah may rest yes, may pitch a tent over and dwell upon me!  2 Corinthians 12:7-9  Amplified 

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Verizon gets iphone – SO WHAT!


I have signed up for postaweek, and this is my current hurricane.  In the grand scheme of things it is more like a tempest in a teapot!  But the little things can get you down!

Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes. 

                                                                                                                                           Song of Solomon 2:14 KJV

It is very old and it goes on and on and on and on and on and it begins and ends with Verizon Wireless.  Verizon gets the iPhone in February, but they still do not have customer service; so, so what!  I always hope for the best, but I just called them, and the first polite person, in sales forwarded me to the second polite person in customer service, who forwarded me to perpetual hold; after 22 minutes I hung up.  I called Verizon’s corporate number in Rochester, NY.  It is circular.  It will not let you speak with an operator, a live person and when you push 1, the call mysteriously fails.  Try it for yourself, (585) 321-7000.  The president of Verizon Wireless is Dan Mead.  His address is 133 Calkins Rd, Rochester NY 14623.  I am writing him a certified letter.  I will update anyone who comments on this post to let you know the response, if any.

This story begins way back  in 2006!  In 2006 my husband had emergency surgery for a disk in his neck that ruptured and fell backward into his spinal column.  By falling into his spinal column, it had caused partial paralysis.  My husband could not lift his hands or move his feet more than a shuffle.  The disk falling into the spinal cord does not show up on x-rays, as it does when it falls out.  The disk normally falls out.  My husband was in the intensive care unit for several days, before the doctors determined the cause of his paralysis, severe pain in his right arm and high fever. 

Immediately after the successful surgery, a neighbor to a rental property we owned in South Dakota called us.  Our renters had left on an extended vacation and the relative they had left to watch the house had a family emergency.  Temperatures in South Dakota had plummeted to -28 and all the pipes had frozen in the house.  There was now water running from the front and back doors of the house.  The neighbors were calling as they could not find the water cutoff to the well, to stop the flood.  We had to call the sheriff to break into the house and turn the water off.

After getting my husband home from the Lincoln, NE hospital, still in a neck brace, the insurance company insisted I had to meet an adjuster in Rapid City SD, at the rent house.  We had no family in Nebraska.  I left my eleven year old daughter in charge of my husband and drove to Rapid City, SD – 700 miles away – to meet the adjuster.  I was in constant contact by cell phone.

Water saturated the rent house.  Every cabinet, every carpet, every ceiling, every carpet, even the sheet rock was full of water.   The pipes had been leaking for 2 weeks before the neighbor noticed the water running out the front and back doors.

NOW, we get to Verizon.  Somehow my cell phone got wet and quit working.  I went to Verizon, in a panic.  My husband, just out of surgery and my eleven year old daughter were in Nebraska, 700 miles away and I had no phone to talk to them.  Not to mention the adjuster and contractor and who knows who else I needed to talk to about the situation with the rental house.

The so-called customer service agent at the Verizon store in Rapid City, SD said there was nothing she could do for me, as the phone was water damaged and I was several months away from the “replacement period”.   After calling a supervisor to the desk, (I was in tears. ), I was told I could buy a phone; which I did.

Now begins the on and on and on and on and on part.  Several months later, Verizon threatened to cut our phones off as my husband had not paid his secondary account.  After many, many  phone calls, I finally discovered that when I purchased the phone, for cash in Rapid City, SD, Verizon had set a secondary account up for Gary, with the rental house as an address.  Effusive apologies from Verizon and promises that the second account created in error in South Dakota was deleted from Verizon’s records.

June 2008, we are moving to Texas and apply for a mortgage.  Surprise, Surprise, surprise – Gary now has a collection item on his credit report from Verizon Wireless.  I recognize the amount.  I call Verizon, after many,many, many, many phone calls, being place on hold, hung up on, the usual BS, I finally get an apology and A LETTER saying, surprise, we do not owe this money and we have never owed this money and Verizon is correcting the erroneous information on all 3 credit bureaus.

We are at the end of our contract with Verizon Wireless.  We choose another carrier – AT&T – who, by the way,  has EXCELLENT customer service!

January 2011, I sell my 2001 Suzuki.  Yes, I owned it for 10 years and it was a little sad.  We apply for credit to buy my 2010 Honda Insight and surprise, surprise, surprise – Verizon Wireless shows a collection item for $13.00 more than the original collection item for the non-existent account that my husband did not create in Rapid City, SD in 2006.  See paragraph 1 in this diatribe.          

We still were able to finance the Honda Insight, I am still getting my new car. 

I read Isaiah 41, the title in The Message Bible is ” Do You Feel Like A Lowly Worm?”  Below is the link.

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Isaiah%2041&version=MSG

Who did this? Who made it happen?
   Who always gets things started?
I did. God. I’m first on the scene.
   I’m also the last to leave.   Isaiah 41:4 THE MESSAGE

Dealing with the non-existent customer service at Verizon Wireless makes me feel like a lowly worm.  Having  a collection item on his credit report makes my husband feel like a lowly worm.   I am so glad to hear He is still in charge!  I will say it again, Verizon is getting the iPhone, SO WHAT!   Without customer service they are no competition for AT&T.

I believe every problem, obstacle,dilemma, predicament, quandary, or trouble that comes our way contains the seed of our future success!!  Together, you and I will be able to find that seed of success, water and grow it.  Join me for free and let us see what will happen.  I covet your comments and would love for you to subscribe today.

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We Wear Our Marriage Inside OUT!


My husband and I wear our marriage inside out. This was not our choice, originally. My dad was a pastor, my husband’s dad was a deacon. I am the oldest of seven children. My dad’s congregation, my husband’s father’s congregation and my siblings found our early marriage fascinating and reported on every facet of it. My husband and I inadvertently triggered this fascination by eloping and having our first child 10 months later. I know those church ladies were counting it down on their fingers!  This Sunday, January 9, 2011 we  will celebrate our 36th anniversary.   

It is true, we are the cliché; everyone said it would never last. 

I was listening to Dave Ramsey yesterday and he said a great marriage is all about perseverance.  Perseverance shows.  My daughter-in-law told me, shortly after she married my son, that she did not want a marriage like our marriage, it was too much work!  I went home and told my husband,   “I believe our seams are showing!”

My husband and I were teenagers in  the seventies, raised in very strict, Christian families.  Like most of our generation, we tried many things and ran from the Lord. We gave everyone plenty to talk about!   It was only when we examined our shattered lives against what we had been taught and knew to be true and came back to the Lord, did we begin to make progress. By the grace of God, and perseverance we stayed married.

We are now happy to wear our marriage inside out. Any peace, joy, prosperity in our life, comes not from us, but from our Lord.

Recently, a niece confided in me, that my husband and I had given her and her husband hope in some tough times, because of the transparency in our marriage, i. e. no one is under any illusion that we have never had problems!

3 Ways To Wear Your Marriage Inside OUT

 

1.  Do Not Quit.

So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit. Right now, therefore, every time we get the chance, let us work for the benefit of all, starting with the people closest to us.  Galatians 6:9 THE MESSAGE

Meet every problem, obstacle,dilemma, predicament, quandary, or trouble that comes your way with the knowledge that it  contains the seed of  future success in your marriage. 

2. Set Your Marriage Free From Expectations.

For my part, I am going to boast about nothing but the Cross of our Master, Jesus Christ. Because of that Cross, I have been crucified in relation to the world, set free from the stifling atmosphere of pleasing others and fitting into the little patterns that they dictate.  Galatians 6:10 THE MESSAGE

A dear pastor friend of ours said something so profound that if you can live by it, it will change your life: Expect NOTHING and be grateful for everything.

 

3.  In Every Situation, Choose Love.

 If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 THE MESSAGE  

 Love is a choice. I know it is a choice, because Jesus made a choice to love me and you. He made His choice in the garden of Gethsemane. His choice to love us caused Him to sweat great drops of blood.

We will continue to wear our marriage inside out, because as someone else has already written, we all married the wrong person!

http://lifegems4marriage.com/2010/09/10/we-all-married-the-wrong-person/

Remember, every problem, obstacle,dilemma, predicament, quandary, or trouble that comes our way contains the seed of our future success!!  Together, you and I will be able to find that seed of success, water and grow it.  Join me for free and let us see what will happen.

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