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The Golden Rule and Gay Marriage – 7 Observations

First Observation – all of my gay friends are dead.  Well, not all of my gay friends, I have some younger gay friends that are not dead.  All of my gay friends that would be my age if they were alive, are dead.  A talented photographer and a wonderful father to four gorgeous sons – dead.  An award wining florist and a beautiful person inside and out – dead.  My husband’s first cousin – dead.  My sister’s nephew’s father – dead.

 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.  Romans 6:23

Second Observation – Our President cannot personally decide anything about marriage.  Marriage does not originate from our President, marriage does not originate from our government, marriage does not originate from man.  Marriage is a God institution  and as marriage originates from God, he has set out the parameters.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man  called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh; 
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man. ”  

 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.  Genesis 2:18-24

Observation Three – Our President said that he was using his faith as a Christian and applying the “golden rule” that Jesus commanded  us to do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  This statement is an oxymoron, as Christians we are to seek correction for disobedience to God’s laws.  As a Christian my desire is to have other Christians offer correction, not condone or coddle me in my sin.

Let a righteous man strike me—that is a kindness;
    let him rebuke me —that is oil on my head. 
My head will not refuse it,
    for my prayer will still be against the deeds of evildoers. Psalms 141:5

Observation Four – The actual physical union of a married man and woman is a sacrament.  It is a sacrament in the same sense that taking communion, the wine and the bread is a sacrament.  If you want to research this in more depth, I recommend “Theology of The Body” by Pope John Paul.

 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:32

Observation Five – In every instance in the Bible when the disobedience is brought into a sacrament, the participants died.  Read the stories in Leviticus 9:23 and Acts 5:1-11.

Observation Six – God does not love someone less for being gay.  God sent his son to die for ALL MANKIND,  His desire is that none should perish.  I cannot love someone less for being gay.  The church cannot love someone less for being gay. God does not love me less for my sin.  The church cannot love me less for my sin.  I cannot defend my sin and expect others to condone and coddle my sin.

Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.  Galatians 6:1

Observation Seven – If our government decides to offer civil unions for consenting adults, it may structure these civil unions in any way it chooses to structure them, as these unions will be a product of the government.  Our government, our President, any man cannot create a sacrament, a spiritual union, as it does not have the power or authority to produce such a union.


Pink Your Profile, Your World In Rose-Colored Glasses

 My Mom always said to see people through the rose-colored glasses of love.  When there are 7 sisters and brothers living in close quarters,  it is very easy to focus on each other’s faults.  Mom wanted her children to focus on our her highest value, that we were to love one another.  Even when we were older and had made mistakes, both my mom and my dad always focused on their love for us, not the mistakes we had made.   

 October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  In the past, that fact barely touched me as I lived my busy life. Last October,  I was diagnosed with Inflammatory Breast Cancer and today I pinked my profile picture on Facebook.  S. C.  Johnson has an application  at!/rightathome?v=app_130977060285053  where you too can pink your profile picture and S. C. Johnson will donate $1.00 to breast cancer research.  Breast Cancer Awareness Month has a higher value after a year of chemo, surgery, radiation.  My pink profile picture reminded me of my Mom,who also had cancer, pancreatic cancer and lost that fight in 2003.  My pink profile picture reminded me of her rose-colored glasses. 

In being busy, the close quarters,  the mistakes, the quandaries, the problems, the hurricanes, the dilemmas,  do we put on our rose-colored glasses and see the people in our life,  in their highest value, love?   As we pink their profile picture, as we place our highest value on people, we begin to see  “seeds of success” .  

 My dear children, let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love. This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s reality. It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves.  1 John 3:18- 20  The Message.

There was a wealthy man with two sons.  He placed the highest value on both sons.  The youngest son was rebellious and unhappy.  He demanded his inheritance from his father.  The father did not react to this rebellion but acted on the father’s highest value, love and gave the son the inheritance, knowing that the money would be misspent.  

The rebellious son went into a far country, thinking the father would not know what he was doing and misspent the money.  The son ended up penniless, friendless and in a hog pen.  In this condition, he found that he could see his father’s value, which he could not see before.  

Focusing on his father’s value, the son returned home to repent and ask to be a servant, to serve his father.  His father did not recriminate, or say, ” I told you so.”  He greeted his son with his highest value, love.  He ran to greet him and gave the son a homecoming party. 

This father pinked his son’s profile.  He focused on his highest value, love.  This is a story Jesus told and can be found in Luke 15:11-32.  John says in 1 John 3:18-20, as we love the other people in our lives, we  live in God’s reality, in God’s promises.  

For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.  Jeremiah 29:11  Amplified

Whatever dilemma, predicament, trouble or mistake you are now facing;  if it is your mistake, like the prodigal son, or your dilemma caused by someone else, like the father, if you can place the highest value of love on people, if you can pink their profile, you will find the seed of your success.

In many ways I let my parents down.  When I was younger, I was the rebellious daughter, and I wanted what was not mine, to do with as I pleased.  However, when I went home to see my parents, they always dropped whatever they were doing and made time for me.  One of the last times I spent with my parents, together; my mom called me shortly after I left.  My Mom said my Dad had said to her, as I drove down the driveway, “Don’t you miss her already.”   They absolutely pinked my profile.  Although both of my parents are now with the Lord, this is a seed of my success.

I believe every problem, obstacle,dilemma, predicament, quandary, or trouble that comes our way contains the seed of our future success!!  Together, you and I will be able to find that seed of success, water and grow it.  Join me for free and let us see what will happen.  I covet your comments and would love for you to subscribe today.

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Grizzly Bear Faith and YOUR $300.00 Dollar Part

What do you believe in?  Someone asked me that question and I said I believe in God, in love and in prayer.  This person asked if I believe in grizzly bears.  I have seen pictures of grizzly bears, some jumping on a trampoline, one trying to drive a car!  I have never personally encountered a grizzly bear, but I believe I believe in them.  This person asked if I were walking in a park in Alaska and a grizzly bear started chasing me, would I believe in grizzly bears.  If a grizzly bear was chasing me, I WOULD BELIEVE IN GRIZZLY BEARS.  This person stated, if you believed in God, in love and in prayer with the same conviction that you would believe in the grizzly bear chasing you;  your life would be completely different and there would be NO UNANSWERED PRAYERS in your life.

Jesus said to them, Because of the littleness of your faith that is, your lack of firmly relying trust.  For truly I say to you, if you have faith that is living,  like a grain of mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, Move from here to yonder place, and it will move; and nothing will be impossible to you.

But this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting. Matt. 17:20-21

What does Grizzly Bear Faith look like?  Paul said in Romans 4:18-25, ” We call Abraham “father” not because he got God’s attention by living like a saint, but because God made something out of Abraham when he was a nobody. Isn’t that what we’ve always read in Scripture, God saying to Abraham, “I set you up as father of many peoples”? Abraham was first named “father” and then became a father because he dared to trust God to do what only God could do: raise the dead to life, with a word make something out of nothing. When everything was hopeless, Abraham believed anyway, deciding to live not on the basis of what he saw he couldn’t do but on what God said he would do. And so he was made father of a multitude of peoples. God himself said to him, “You’re going to have a big family, Abraham!”

 Abraham didn’t focus on his own impotence and say, “It’s hopeless. This hundred-year-old body could never father a child.” Nor did he survey Sarah’s decades of infertility and give up. He didn’t tiptoe around God’s promise asking cautiously skeptical questions. He plunged into the promise and came up strong, ready for God, sure that God would make good on what he had said. That’s why it is said, “Abraham was declared fit before God by trusting God to set him right.”

As Abraham is called the “Father of Faith”, we sometimes mistakenly think that is because of his “righteousness”.  I am going to relate a story about faith and as I relate the story I ask you to really meditate on the scripture above.  I would really like your opinion on this idea of Grizzly Bear Faith!

In 2003 my mother died of pancreatic cancer, and 2 weeks before my mother died our 8 year old Lllaso Apso died of female problems.  I am not equating the loss of my mother with the loss of our dog, but I want to give you the context of loss when this story occurred. 

We had returned to Texas from my mother’s funeral and we had been back about a week.  My husband had a short-term contract at an independent grocery chain to assist with a festival.  He had been unemployed for 4 months.  My husband’s lack of full-time employment was another loss we were dealing with at this time. 

In the parking lot of the grocery store my husband was working in, a man had pulled into the parking lot and in the back-end of his pick up truck he had 10 very large 6 week old puppies he was giving away.  My nine-year old daughter crawls right up into the bed of the pickup and begins petting all of the puppies. We MUST have one, they are free.  By the time her dad is free to make the monumental and forgone decision to allow her to have one of these free puppies, only two are left.  My daughter chooses the one in her lap, a black sturdy boy with mastiff markings on his face, similar to a Rottweiler.

My daughter names him Santiago.  He is almost too big for her to carry, at 6 weeks.  I knew he would grow to be a very big dog and it would be necessary for him to be well trained.  I began training him immediately and by 10 weeks he was completely house broken, could sit, lie and shake hands.  His mother was a Catahoula Leopard Dog/Rhodesian Ridgeback mix, especially bred for hunting.  She had gotten out and had these accidental puppies.  Santiago, although a mongrel, was very smart.

Santiago at 10 weeks became very sick.  He threw up all day, and had an accident, which caused him great distress.  After one day of this, I told my husband that he needed to see the vet.  I could see he was getting weaker hour by hour.  My husband, who did not have a job, gave me $300.00 he had been saving for an emergency.  $300.00 seemed a lot of money to me, but if you have ever taken a sick dog to the vet, you already know – this was not enough money.

My daughter, Santiago and I went to the vet as soon as the office was open the next morning.  By this time Santiago could barely sit up.  The vet comes in to see him and Santiago staggers into a sitting position and offers the vet his paw to shake.  The vet looks Santiago over and tells us that he has parvovirus and hookworms and that at most he has a 40% chance of survival.  My daughter begin to wail. 

The veterinarian says he will require $1500.00 up front and it could cost as much as $2500.00.  My daughter begins to bawl harder.  My daughter was there when her dad gave me the $300.00 emergency money and when he told me that was all I could spend on Santiago.  I am speechless.  Santiago is still shakily trying to shake paws with the vet.  Recovering my voice, I tell the vet about the $300.00 emergency money, that my husband is unemployed, that my daughter lost her grandmother and her dog in the last month.  I played all of my cards.   The vet said he had to check on something and he would be back.  He was gone for what seemed to me a very long time.  My daughter continued to weep, Santiago was now offering his paw to me and I was praying hard.

The vet comes back into the office and ask me, “How hard are you willing to work?”  I am still speechless.  He then says that he will keep Santiago overnight and hydrate him with an IV.  I would need to pick him up the next morning.  The vet will give me all the medications and the schedule.  It will cost me $300.00.  Even if we left him at the vet and he was given the medications by the vet, the vet gave him less than a 50% chance, so there are no guarantees. 

The next morning I picked Santiago up, all the medications and a schedule for the medications, for giving water and food.  It was very involved and required me to do something for Santiago every two hours for two weeks.  The vets office called me once a day.  I kept the schedule, gave the medications, fed him water with an eye dropper, prayed over him and anointed him with oil. 

When we took Santiago to the vet at 12 weeks for his puppy shots, the vet burst into tears.  He said. “I never expected to see this dog again, alive.  

Grizzly Bear Faith requires a $300.00 part.  This $300.00 part will not be enough to accomplish anything and you will know it, but it will be the thing you can do and it will cost you.  Abraham had a $300.00 part.  It says in Hebrews 11:8-10, By an act of faith, Abraham said yes to God’s call to travel to an unknown place that would become his home. When he left he had no idea where he was going. By an act of faith he lived in the country promised him, lived as a stranger camping in tents. Isaac and Jacob did the same, living under the same promise. Abraham did it by keeping his eye on an unseen city with real, eternal foundations—the City designed and built by God. 

Leaving Ur, and his blood relatives was Abraham’s $300.00 part, not enough to accomplish the promise and it cost him.  In Math 17:21, Jesus again mentions the $300.00 part, prayer and fasting.  Not enough to accomplish the feat of casting out the demon, apart from God, but a cost to the disciples.

Do you have unanswered prayer in your life?  What is your $300.00 part?  I believe this is what James is talking about in chapter 3:18, “Not so fast. You can no more show me your works apart from your faith than I can show you my faith apart from my works. Faith and works, works and faith, fit together hand in glove.”