From an Obsessive Optimist in the Eye of A Hurricane.

life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass; It's about learning to dance in the rain.

How NOT To Be A Crap Magnet

on July 9, 2010

Complaining and drama is the absolute worst thing you can do for your health and wealth. I am a big believer in the universal law that states what you focus on expands! When you are complaining, what are you focusing on? When you have drama, what are you focusing on? What’s right with your life or what’s wrong with your life. You are obviously focusing on what’s wrong with it and as what you focus on expands, you will keep getting more of what is wrong. 

The” Law of Attraction” states” like attracts like”, meaning that when you are complaining and/ or going on with drama, you are actually attracting more of the same CRAP into your life! When you are complaining/creating drama, you become a living, breathing CRAP MAGNET!

Do not put yourself in the proximity of the complainer/drama queen. If you absolutely have to be nearby make sure you bring a steel umbrella or the CRAP meant for them could end up on YOU!

Stay as far away from complainers/drama queens as possible because negative energy is infectious.

Here is some homework. I promise it will change your life FOREVER! For the next 7 days I challenge you not to complain AT ALL – not just out loud, not even in your head. But you have to do it for the full seven days. Why? Because the first few days you may still have some RESIDUAL CRAP coming to you from before! Unfortunately CRAP does not move at the speed of light, it moves at the SPEED OF CRAP, so it might take a while to clear out.

This exercise is transforming. When you stop focusing on CRAP, you stop attracting CRAP.

From now on, if you hear yourself blaming, justifying or complaining or creating drama – CEASE AND DESIST. Remind your self that you are creating your life and that at every moment you are attracting success or CRAP into your life. It is imperative that you choose your thoughts and words wisely.

Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies. Phil. 4:8 (The Message Bible)

Rejoice and again I say rejoice; in this world you will have many trials, tribulations and sorrows, but REJOICE, for I Jesus, have OVERCOME the world.  John 16:33 (Cherry Paraphrase)

This is a paraphrase from the “The Millionaire Mind” by T. Harv Eker.  I love this book and recommend it to anyone who wants to expand thier thinking.  I wrote this paraphrase and emailed it to some friends that had been discussing how to live with negative people, family members. 

A dear friend related the following experience after receiving the email.  She and her family set out on a road trip the day after she received the email and it was fresh in her mind.  They were about an hour into a three-hour drive when their truck began to hiccup and stall.  The hiccups grew longer and the stalling finally brought their truck to a stop at a roadside gas station.  My friend’s husband was very unhappy and began to express his unhappiness in a very dramatic way.  Remembering the email, my friend removed herself to the back of the truck.  She turned her christian music on her iPod and began to pray and praise. 

Here I was reminded of a very helpful suggestion from the wonderful book, “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” by John Gray, in Mars when a storm is brewing, LAY LOW.  That is not how you handle storms on Venus, but is very helpful when dealing with those Martians!!

As my dear friend put up her steel umbrella of prayer and praise and moved away from the source of drama and complaining, so as not to be infected, the atmosphere she was in, improved. 

After more drama, complaining, blaming and texts to various friends, the truck started up and proceeded splendidly for the rest of the trip.  My dear friends’ husband picked up her hand and shook it as they started off.  Not a word was said about the drama.  Later my dear friend asked her husband what the hand shaking was about.  He mumbled,” I guess it was an apology.”

They spent the rest of the trip in perfect harmony.  What discord could have ensued if my friend had not put up her steel umbrella of prayer and praise and moved away from the infectious negative energy. 


Most of the time it is not your place to address the drama and complaining.  It is best to move away and engage in pray and praise.


8 responses to “How NOT To Be A Crap Magnet

  1. Laurel says:

    Excellent nice new blog site you’ve created. I’d suggest to anyone buying and reading “The Wisdom of Florence Schovel Shinn” right up the optimist positive alley…

  2. Barbara says:

    I am so glad I discovered your blog thanks to Annabel Candy. I truly believe in the law of attraction, and also believe that sometimes when you’re life really is feeling like CRAP the perfect solution will appear to bring you back to gratitude.

    This post was exactly what I needed today. I’m going to tweet and subscribe.
    Thanks for this!

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  5. Melissa says:

    Oh girl, we are so on track with each other it’s not funny! I loved it so much I went back and added it to my post:)

  6. […] Some days you cannot put on your happy face, no matter how you try.  Yesterday was one of those days for me.  Although I tried several times to write a post, it came out so dreary and full of whining and self-pity that I coul not publish it.  With all that whine, I certainly needed cheese and crackers.  The next thing up was to become the dreaded “crap magnet”! […]

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